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Tuesday
Sep092008

6 Months later...

Today is my 6-month anniversary.  6 Months ago my hubby and I were nervously awaiting the smashing of glass, the dancing first dances and the cutting of the cake.

As some of you know, we got married rather quickly.  Essentially, we were enaged and married in 3 weeks.  Our party was 36 people (including ourselves) which consisted of mostly family and a few extended family members.  It was lovely and completely the way to do it.

It was so nice not to obsess over the little details.  Not once did my mother and I fight about whether it should be white or off-white, purple or lilac, fish or chicken.  We didn't have time to stumble over choices like this, we just made them.  And it was great.

Geoff and I were engaged on Valentines Day (ick).  Well technically it was past midnight so lets say Febrary 15th.  On the 15th I ordered my beautiful dress from AnnTaylor.com and it was on my doorstep a few days later.  My mother in law took me to chinatown to get it tailored and done!  The only thing that was a bit of a struggle was the veil.  I refused to pay 100s of dollars for something I could easily make myself.  I managed to get one of ebay for a resonable sum (the express shipping cost more than the veil).

Anyway, reflecting on the last 6 months, I can't say married life has really changed us.  I think if anything, we like each other more.  There's a certain mutual respect that you can't really feel for a person until you're married.  We look at each other now and think, this person is my family and I need to think before I yell at them for not putting the cap back on the toothpaste.

I am very happy and feeling good about the last 6 months and the next 60 years to come.  My husband is wonderful and we plan on having a good time and kicking ass for the rest of our lives together.

Friday
Sep052008

Waiting for them to come out and yell "Surprise!"

As you all know, I quit my job last week and this is my last full week at MTV.  I've really enjoyed my time here at MTV and was, until last night, really sad to leave.

Last night was my big going away party.  My friend Matt invited our entire department, some other people in random departments and a few extra friends that had nothing to do with MTV.  I nervously checked the facebook invite once an hour to see who would be attending my special send off.  Slowly but surely responses were rolling in, mostly from people I do not immediately work with.  With the exception of Matt and a few people who apologetically called me or emailed to say they couldn't make it, no one from my immediate department even RSVP'd.  I thought, well I suppose they're just not into facebook invites.

So in my diligent fashion I sent a mass email to everyone who had not responded, just reminding them that I was having this party and I was in fact, leaving next week and if they want to say bye, now was their chance.  A few more responses trickled in, but still a majority of the people I work with had not responded.

Last night I got to the restaurant with Matt, one other coworker in my group and about 8 other people who I do not directly work with but have worked on projects with.  My boss did not show up, my boss's boss did not show up.  Not even the girl I work side by side with, showed up.

None of this particularly phased me throughout the night.  I had a nice time drinking sake and stuffing myself full of sushi and didn't notice the lack of my coworkers.  But when dinner was over and we were heading home, it hit me.  Nobody cares.  No one cared enough to take one night out of their busy lives to see me off into the world outside of MTV. My boss's boss has not even spoken to me since I resigned.  Not a word about "we're going to miss you" or anything.

This has been one of my fundamental complaints about my current department both in a work and a personal sense.  I have never felt liked I belonged.  I've never felt that I was important enough to these people to really give the time of day to.  They never wanted to train me, they never wanted to get to know me.  And that's really, really sad.  What also makes it so sad is that I didn't really realize that until last night.  It does make my decision to leave a lot easier.  I'm excited to move to a company with 8 people in it.  At least there I have a fighting chance of getting to know everyone.

Anyway with 3 days left on the MTV payroll, I keep waiting for that cryptic meeting invite in one of the big conference rooms.  I keep waiting for the administrative assistant to send me out on some BS errand so I can be out of the office while she brings in a cake.  I keep waiting...waiting for someone to acknowledge that I'm leaving and that it sucks and they will miss me.  I suppose I can keep waiting but I'm sure as hell not going to hold my breath.

Tuesday
Sep022008

yay me

Jim Walsh of the MinnPost in his column, Monday Morning Playback writes:

"Marissa Levy, "Charmed and Dangerous." (Marissa Levy/Crayonbox Records). A smart, spunky songstress with a voice that takes you to that special place where you drink champagne while showering under waterfalls. Many of the tunes are pub and clubland survivor stories, and "Leave the Boy at the Bar" is the kind of flirt-with-'em-and-leave-'em piece of advice fathers everywhere should sneak onto their daughters' playlists."

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